* The Skeletons in the Closet
Once sexual abuse is revealed, the number one rule for any sex offender is to
NEVER contact their victim. This is also a condition of bond, probation and
parole, if the sex offender was charged
and/or convicted. It is also reiterated
during sex offender therapy. However, while in treatment, Arthur Trampler
contacted his victim, via email, to see what type of reaction or response he might
get since a family court hearing was scheduled and approaching. Thankfully, my daughter
notified me immediately and she then wrote to the sex offender therapist informing her of her
disgust regarding Arthur's unwanted communication. Once again, due to Arthur's lack of
empathy and his selfishness, he was more concerned with himself than any further trauma
to his victim or in complying with the rules of sex offender treatment.
Worse yet, as I was
preparing for court, I searched online and due to the fact he had foolishly
listed his email address in the post, I found a disturbing conversation my ex-husband had
written to a girl, who claimed to be 18 yrs old, at a pornographic, fetish website. In this
conversation, my ex-husband tried to find out
if this girl had ever had sex with her father and
wanted her to reveal the details
to him. He also bragged about the abuse he had commited
against my daughter and then he
had very detailed "cybersex" with this girl. Arthur had this
online conversation while he was enrolled in sex offender treatment. He
was forced to
read exerpts of
the conversation during the first day of our court
trial.
Arthur Trampler proved time and again, he only enrolled in treatment because
it was "the
proper thing to do" and it also fed his narcissistic need for
attention. His repeated actions also
prove he actually had
no true desire to be rehabilitated or to take responsibility for his actions.
Seeking treatment was just another of his numerous ploys and he eventually quit the program,
stating his attorney advised him to do so.
I can only imagine what I haven't found out about and
what else he has done.
Wives, relatives and loved ones need to know
that a sex offender will say or do anything after
their crime has been revealed but behind everyone's back, they usually continue with
their
perverted ways. He will beg for forgiveness, cry, say he takes full responsibility for his crime,
swear he'll never do it again, enroll in
treatment and he might even start going to church saying
he has found God and he
is a new person (I've learned the church is a great place for sex
offenders to "hide" and
"fit in" because Christians usually accept them, since they are taught
they must "forgive")
My ex-husband did ALL of these things and I was
naive and stupid and
wanted to believe it, for a time. Obviously, his current wife fell for it all because she married
him. I feel sorry for her. But, sex offenders are experts
at being cunning, manipulative and
pathological liars. These traits are one of the reasons they were able to sexually abuse your
loved one in the first place. Do not stay with them no matter what they say or do or promise.
What does that say to the victim/your child? Think long and hard before you ever decide to
stay, which only condones the abuse that offender
committed against your child. It's a decision
you could regret for the rest of your life.
